Goddess Cecilia & The Traveling Sybian!

We were so stressed about packing the Sybian for the cruise that we didn't get to play with it until we were in Day 2 of the cruise itself! It had arrived safe and sound the Saturday beforehand, and were just too nervous about whether it was getting onto the cruise at all!

During the unboxing process, we had figured out all the necessary pieces, examined all the attachments and read all the instructions that came with it. Like true nerds and geeks - we wanted to get all the information first. Though a stool was part of the package, we decided not to take it along to save on some luggage room.

We were happy to find our luggage outside our cabin door when we arrived on the ship! I immediately opened everything to make sure that the Sybian (and my mermaid fin, which provided some padding inside the luggage!) were perfectly safe. As we proceeded to unpack, we realized a major potential flaw in our thinking. 

There's only ONE power plug in the whole of our inside cabin! And it's not right next to the bed!

Andrew jokingly said that we would need to use the Sybian on the floor, and that it would probably blend in to the other sounds on the boat. But I remained optimistic.

Day 1 on the boat was full of getting acclamated to the ship, schedule and general socializing. No chance to pull the Sybian out for play.

After an early dinner on Day 2, we found ourselves relaxing in our room, trying to decide what to do next. Since we had time to kill, out came the Sybian!

I decided to try the Orb attachment. I prefer external stimulation with toys, and that particular attachment has intrigued me in the past when I've seen the Sybian on display and on the website.

As I cleaned the attachment, Andrew proceeded to set up the Sybian. Then I heard a very pleased, "Oh!" When I peeked out from the bathroom, I see that the power cord was long enough to have the Sybian sit perfectly on the bed, maybe 6 inches from the edge.

Andrew expertly slid on the Orb. As I was undressing, he was testing the controller. He proceeded to slowly turn up the vibration dial. We watched the Sybian Orb vibrate/pulsate slowly, then more rumbly as it increased. He turned it all the way up and it echoed so loudly in our room! I was scared that it would cause concern for our neighbors!

The moment of truth had arrived. The Orb and Andrew stared at me in anticipation. I suddenly realized I was quire intimidated by the whole situation, especially by the Orb. It’s shaped like a large bulbous clitoris on top of a labia-like slope. It seemed obvious where I needed to place my body.

Maybe I was intimidated by the fact that Andrew himself up on the wall behind the bed. A wall that prominently featured a mirror. I knew I would end up catching glimpses of myself and my "O Face."

I straddled the Sybian, adjusted myself on top of the Orb. Andrew had quite the devilish grin on him, and asked if I wanted to try the controller first. I turned it on, and when I had a sense of what the vibration, I handed over the controller.

At first, I didn’t feel much. I had to readjust myself a bit more before I found my sweet spot. He started to turn the vibration dial higher. We went at a relatively slow pace. He told me he would follow my lead in all of this. As the settings increased, the sensations amped up as well.

At some point I realized that Andrew was gently encouraging me, checking in with me, helping me feel more comfortable. Then he said, "We're almost at half."

HALF??? I was shocked! It was already feeling so powerful between my legs, I couldn't believe it wasn't already at the highest speed!

At exactly the half-way mark, I reached orgasm!

The rumble isn't like anything else - and I've used a lot of toys in my day. Most of the time, I test toys on my own before introducing them to our bedroom. I had tried the Sybian the first time at Sex Geek Summer Camp, but this was definitely different.

When we were home from the cruise, Andrew wanted to try it himself. Using the flat top, he tried positioning himself so that he could get the vibrations on his perineum. Without any stimulation to his penis, it felt more interesting than pleasurable it seemed. While I was stimulating him, he could feel the vibrations throughout the length of his penis, but I think the sensation and the position he was sitting in was distracting him from fully giving in. Either way, it was a fun experience and he feels satisfied that he can speak to the sensations of the Sybian from his perspective.

It was fun to use it together! Having him there sharing the experience with me made it seem more intimate and exciting. Doing the testing experience on our cruise adventure together will definitely go down as something we’ll remember for a long time to come.

We definitely hope to play with the Sybian again! Wish us luck!

Some of my friends tried the Sybian on the cruise as well! Check out their videos on my Traveling Sybian Playlist!

Visit, learn about and buy the Sybian at www.sybian.com

No Need to Fear When It Comes to the Rear!

Alright. Have a seat.

Let's talk about anal pleasure.

I know, I know - "Exit only! Nothing is going in there! No! No! NO!"

That's totally fine. If you have zero interest in exploring anal play, then you do not have to explore anal play at all! But...you might have a friend that is anal-curious. You could be the one to make sure they have the right information to have a pleasurable experience.

So, let's get started, shall we?

But Why, Tho?

You might be wondering why even go there? What's the point of anal stimulation? Does it even feel good?

Well, yes, it can certainly feel good. In fact, it never has to be unpleasant at all! The anus is full of nerve endings, we just have to re-associate good feelings to anal stimulation.

For vulva-owners, anal stimulation can intensify all the other sensations that might be happening, and the G-spot can also be stimulated through anal stimulation. For penis-owners, the Prostate Gland can be directly stimulated through anal stimulation, also intensifying other sensations as well as orgasms.

Isn't it dirty tho?

Generally, there isn't just poop chilling inside your rectum waiting for you to go to the bathroom. When you have to go to the bathroom, there's probably already poop in your rectum! Oh, and anal penetration isn't necessarily going to lead you to be a walking pooping machine. That's some weird shaming ideas to make you feel bad for liking to play with your butt.

There may be feces residue on whatever is inserted inside the anus, because...well, because most of our bodies have feces residue and bacteria chilling inside the rectum due to the kind of diet we have.

Anal douching is not required at all. In all honesty, I'm still not a fan of douching in general since it can wash away the good bacteria that your body needs to stay healthy. So, douche with caution if you must, but really you don't have to.

(Photo by Daniel Monteiro on Unsplash

Go Slower Than You Think You Should

Once upon a time as a child, we were probably totally fine with exploring our bodies and what felt good. Then, someone told us that some parts of our body were "dirty." So, we grew up believing a lot of negative things about those body parts.

This is even more true about the anus.

Because of these negative associations, diving right into anal play might be difficult for some. But here's the thing...you don't have to involve anal penetration at all. In fact, I recommend that penetration not even be on the table during your first foray into anal stimulation nor does it ever have to be part of your play! Do what's right for you, boo!

The anus needs time to relax and get comfortable. It needs some TLC before it's ready to open up, if you will.

Start with something simple for the first several times. Massaging the anus with a lubed finger or using a vibrator externally can help the anus (and you) feel more comfortable with the stimulation. Perhaps stimulate other parts of the body while also stimulating the anus. This can help you re-associate pleasurable feelings with a neglected part of the body.

Lubrication is a Must

Generally speaking, the anus does not self-lubricate. It's possible that other bodily fluids might be present, but it's often not enough for a well-lubricated anus.

Silicone-based lubricants are great for anal stimulation with a finger or non-silicone toy since it has the longest lasting power. ***Remember that silicone lube DO NOT play well with silicone toys!***

Water-based, hybrid, or oil-based lubes can also work fine. Just take note of your own body's sensitivities and safe-sex practices. **Remember that oil-based lubes DO NOT play well with condoms!***

When it Comes to Penetration, Start Small

After several sexy sessions with external anal stimulation, if you want to explore penetration, try inserting a finger or a small anal plug. After several more sexy sessions with a small plug inserted, go ahead and try a slightly larger plug. After several more sexy session...you get the idea!

However, I cannot iterate enough that there doesn't need to be any penetration at all. Whatever the receiver is comfortable with is as far as it should go! 

Pro Tip 1: Any toys that are used anally need to have a flared base! 
Pro Tip 2: If you're going to use a toy anally and then use it for other things later, use a condom/barrier method between orifices!

Not to be Anal but (you see what I did there?), Communication is Key

It's overused advice, but it never gets old!

Talk about what interests you and your partners about anal play. Talk about what each person is interested in doing and what they have absolutely no interested in doing. Talk about how to communicate that you want to stop, and remember that sometimes "No" and "Stop" can be used during play and are not useful for when you actually want to stop. 

As I mentioned above, the person receiving the anal stimulation has the ultimate say in what happens to their body. They get to decide whether there's even any anal stimulation at all, whether they want anal penetration, whether they want a toy or a penis. The receiver is really the one in control of the anal situation.

No if's, and's, or but's about it!

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If you want a private consultation about your anal experience, schedule a time to chat with Goddess Cecilia via email at goddesscecilia@gmail.com.